As a pastor, one of the most delicate and essential responsibilities is knowing when to teach certain subjects, particularly those like holiness. Holiness is central to the Christian walk, yet its depth and breadth require wisdom in teaching so it can be effectively embraced and applied. The Apostle Paul highlighted the need for discernment in teaching when he wrote, “I fed you with milk and not with solid food; for until now you were not able to receive it, and even now you are still not able” (1 Corinthians 3:2, NKJV). This verse reminds us that spiritual growth is a process, and as spiritual leaders, we must respect that process.

Holiness Is for Everyone—But Timing Matters

The subject of holiness is foundational to becoming Christlike. Scripture commands us, “Be holy, for I am holy” (1 Peter 1:16, NKJV). However, teaching holiness is not a one-size-fits-all approach. A babe in Christ, freshly converted, may not yet be ready to understand or apply the deeper principles of holiness, especially in lifestyle and ministry.

When Paul admonished the Corinthians, he acknowledged their immaturity. Similarly, Hebrews 5:12-14 warns that babes in Christ need milk—basic teachings—before they can digest solid food, which is deeper doctrinal truths. Therefore, teaching holiness requires careful discernment of a person’s spiritual maturity.

How to Discern Readiness to Teach Holiness?

1. Spiritual Maturity

Look for signs of spiritual hunger for growth, such as faithfulness in prayer, understanding of foundational doctrines, and hunger for God’s Word. Jesus taught progressively, starting with parables and moving to deeper truths when His disciples were ready (John 16:12).

Are they consistently walking in newness of life, demonstrating hunger and transformation of desires and motives? Observing these signs can help discern their readiness to embrace the teachings of holiness.

2. Relational Context

Building relationships with those you disciple provides insight into their readiness. A personal connection allows you to discern their spiritual struggles and strengths. Paul taught the Thessalonians “as a nursing mother cherishes her own children” (1 Thessalonians 2:7, NKJV), demonstrating the importance of nurturing relationships.

Do they trust you as a spiritual mentor? Are they open to instruction?

3. Signs of Conviction

The Holy Spirit often begins stirring hearts before a topic is formally introduced. Pay attention to signs of personal conviction. When people begin asking questions about lifestyle or expressing concern over worldly influences, it may indicate readiness to learn about holiness.

Is the Spirit prompting them toward deeper consecration?

4. Desire to Serve

Those stepping into ministry roles should understand holiness because it reflects God’s character and qualifies them to represent Him. However, preparation is key. Holiness should be taught progressively, focusing first on inward transformation before addressing outward standards.

Do they demonstrate faithfulness, submission, and a teachable spirit?

Steps to Introduce Holiness Gradually

1. Start with Identity in Christ

Help them understand that holiness begins with their new identity. They are a “new creation” (2 Corinthians 5:17, NKJV), called to reflect God’s nature.

Focus on teaching them to walk in the Spirit (Galatians 5:16-25) before emphasizing external expressions of holiness.

2. Teach the Why Before the What

Holiness is not a set of rules but a response to God’s love and grace. Emphasize that holiness is about relationship rather than legalism. Jesus said, “If you love Me, keep My commandments” (John 14:15, NKJV).

Explain that holiness stems from gratitude and reverence for God, not fear or obligation.

3. Use Scriptural Examples

The Bible is filled with examples of people growing in holiness over time. The Israelites were delivered from Egypt before God gave them the law (Exodus 19-20), showing that relationship precedes regulations.

4. Balance Grace and Truth

Follow the example of Jesus, who was “full of grace and truth” (John 1:14, NKJV). Encourage and affirm progress while addressing areas that need alignment with God’s Word.

5. Introduce Lifestyle Standards Last

External standards of holiness should be introduced only after the individual understands and embraces inward holiness. Modesty, gender distinction, and other principles are important but must flow from a heart that desires to please God.

Holiness in Ministry

Those stepping into the pulpit and leadership ministry roles must embrace holiness as part of their preparation. Paul instructed Timothy, “If a man desires the position of a bishop, he desires a good work” (1 Timothy 3:1, NKJV), followed by qualifications rooted in character and conduct.

Pulpit and leadership ministry require a higher standard, but rushing someone into holiness without inward transformation leads to legalism.

Teach aspiring ministers that holiness begins with their private life before it is evident in their public ministry. They must model Christlike character and integrity, which will naturally lead to a life that reflects holiness.

Pray for Discernment

Ultimately, discerning the timing and approach to teaching holiness requires prayer and reliance on the Holy Spirit. James 1:5 reminds us, “If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him” (NKJV). Pray for wisdom to teach holiness in a way that leads to lasting transformation.

Teaching holiness is not about refraining from the subject but introducing it at the right time and in the right way. Discerning readiness involves understanding spiritual maturity, relational trust, signs of conviction, and the desire to serve. By progressively teaching holiness, beginning with identity and inward transformation, we honour God’s Word and the individual’s spiritual journey.

Holiness is not just a doctrine—it is a lifestyle that glorifies God and reflects His character. When taught with wisdom and grace, it becomes a source of joy and spiritual growth for all who receive it.